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Breaking the Chain: When Writing a Memoir Isn’t Enough
Understanding the Power and Limits of Telling Our Stories Survivors of trauma are often encouraged to write a memoir as a way to heal, raise awareness, and create change. Some survivors always felt they were supposed to write a book, and others were told, ‘you should write a book.’ “If we think we ‘should’ do something, it probably means we have the ghost of a parent, authority figure, or third-grade teacher whispering in our ear.” – Notaras, K., The Book You Were Born to Write, 2018. I wasn’t encouraged externally; I had written a mission ‘to be a voice in the silent landscape of sibling sexual abuse.’ When I first…
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Breaking Generational Silence: Let’s Start Talking About What Matters
The post emphasizes the importance of breaking generational silence around conversations, particularly relating to trauma and sibling sexual abuse. It discusses how unhealthy communication patterns are often inherited and stresses the need for open dialogue as a means of healing. Through initiatives like the Blue Borage Conversation Café, it encourages individuals to engage in courageous conversations to foster connection and understanding.
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Embracing Resistance: How I Learned to Trust, Honour, and Love My Way Through Writing Resolve
💛 “We make sense, or fail to make sense, of our lives by the kind of story we can, or cannot, tell about it.” – Joseph Dunne When I began writing Resolve, I had no idea how much resistance would become part of my process. I thought resistance was the enemy. A force pushing back at me, trying to stop me from doing what needed to be done. But as I’ve learned, resistance is deeply a part of us, and when approached with understanding, it transforms from an obstacle into an ally. I remember the silence of my office as I wrote the first words of my manuscript. It wasn’t…
