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The Persecutor Within: Unraveling Family Dynamics
How Trauma Responses Shape Roles in Dysfunctional Families In families marked by sibling sexual abuse (SSA), complex dynamics often emerge, with individuals adopting roles that perpetuate cycles of harm. Understanding these roles and the underlying trauma responses is crucial for healing and breaking free from destructive patterns. Family Dynamics Beyond the Time of Abuse At 25, I disclosed, and I won’t spoil it here if you’ve not read Resolve yet. Within a week, I was being told to not say another thing. Fear crept in for others in our family. Fear of my brother. He was a cop at the time (that’s not in Resolve). For others, the reality was…
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Breaking Generational Silence: Let’s Start Talking About What Matters
The post emphasizes the importance of breaking generational silence around conversations, particularly relating to trauma and sibling sexual abuse. It discusses how unhealthy communication patterns are often inherited and stresses the need for open dialogue as a means of healing. Through initiatives like the Blue Borage Conversation Café, it encourages individuals to engage in courageous conversations to foster connection and understanding.
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Embracing Resistance: How I Learned to Trust, Honour, and Love My Way Through Writing Resolve
💛 “We make sense, or fail to make sense, of our lives by the kind of story we can, or cannot, tell about it.” – Joseph Dunne When I began writing Resolve, I had no idea how much resistance would become part of my process. I thought resistance was the enemy. A force pushing back at me, trying to stop me from doing what needed to be done. But as I’ve learned, resistance is deeply a part of us, and when approached with understanding, it transforms from an obstacle into an ally. I remember the silence of my office as I wrote the first words of my manuscript. It wasn’t…
